Thank you for the time today. I have made all the changes per our session.
You convinced me that 15 minutes of you brain power is worth a hell of a lot more than my hours of feeble attempts for the last week!
If anyone else is wondering about trying to use ENUM in DA insert and update fields, it was the  bracket that caused the array. So ENUM can be used in DA but delete the php part and replace with options. Saving for my feeble brain for when I forget. Look for the default  after the NAME.
This is contrary to all the older posts that said enum can't work. So you fixed mine and I am grateful.
<div class="fullColumnGroup"><label for="fam_quest_A_2" class="sublabel" >What is your age group?:</label>
<select class="formTextfield_Large" name="fam_quest_A_2" id="fam_quest_A_2" rel=tabindex="4" title="Please enter a value." >
<option value "" >Please select one</option>
also note: use DA using list option but change formListfield_Large to