edit:
<option value="<?php echo($rsStatesPostal->getColumnVal("states_abr")); ?>">
to:
<option value="<?php echo($rsStatesPostal->getColumnVal("states_abr")); ?>" <?php if (!(strcmp($rsStatesPostal->getColumnVal("states_abr"), ($rsPostal->getColumnVal("state_abrv"))))) {echo "selected=\"selected\"";} ?>>