You are close.
1) open the Recordset
2) switch to Advanced
3) update the SQL statement and add: " AND FamilyIDColmn = paramPlaceholder" (paramPlaceholder can be anything really and FamilyIDColumn should be the column name from the database)
4) click the plus sign
5) enter the name paramPlaceholder (match whatever name you entered in step 3)
... the rest of your steps are correct
The only part you missed is what I have in step 3