Eric, thanks for the reply..and I understand all but two.
1. As for the "send as a gift" functionality, could you steer me as to how I could get someone to do it for me as my coding skills are that of a child? The javascript and regular css stuff I can handle but I don't have a clue about how to add it.
2. We are using USPS - Could you explain how I could set up these rules or steer me to someone who could? Do I use ECart or something to augment?