Ok, so here's what I did. I copied the xml file into my live site. I went into the two js files in the live site and edited them to point to the xml file (contents_update_ContentValue1.js and contents_insert_ContentValue1.js) which was FCKConfig.StylesXmlPath = '../mystyles.xml'; // relative to fckeditor/editor/fckeditor.html
Also, in both of those js files is where I could set what skin to use so I changed it from default to office2003 FCKConfig.SkinPath = 'skins/office2003/'; // relative to fckeditor/editor/fckeditor.html
I uploaded all of those changed.
Everything still works properly, but there is still no stylesheet dropdown in the editor. And, it's still using the default style instead of the office 2003 like I changed it to.
I don't know what else to do. I am lost :-(
Does it sound like I did everything right???