Finally~ :) Got the job done :)
So I wanted to post that I FINALLY got that darn thing to work.
What it took was to alter the flash embed, added a flashvar to get the menu.php and add the detailsID to it there.
Flashvars "xmlLocation=menu.php?detailsID=<? echo myrecordset detailsID>"
I see many people have been viewing this thread, and wanted to share what finally got the job done to carry the detailsID to the menu.php which now feeds the player.
Thank you for all your help and support !
I'm now going to be able to keep some of my hair....LOL...:)