this loosing of my options for three days in a row has now settled, cannot say why as nothing was really done except put back the options. They have remained there and all is stable.
I would recommend that everybody gets a backup of their database when they are developing as they go, as that is a sure way to be able to retrieve anything that is lost, and you can send to support if there are issues. Unfortunately I thought of this a little late, but have that backup locally now.
Cheers and good eCommerce to all.